Monday, March 21, 2016

To Letting Go

 

Please excuse my silence on here as of late.

I have been going through some sort of Phoenix Process that is taking up quite a bit of my mental process time.
Normally, it's easy for me to process here on the ole bloggy poo.
Openly and quite frequently, I have been able to go thru many a season in life with you beloved reader.

But recently, the words are just not coming as easily.
One emotions rolls quite quickly into the next and I hardly have time to breathe, (let alone blog) in between processing the next chain of events that my Fabulous 4 have been forcing me to encounter.

It became quite evident today though as I was just enjoying the first day of Spring Break relaxing with my kids, and enjoying the  lack of taxi cab driving everyone everywhere that very shortly there will be one less chic in the nest.

I was upstairs reading a book... when Emma came in and told me her work schedule for the week and I realized she won't be able to go on the mini-vay-cay we have planned for our spring break.
It will be the first time in 18 years that the "fab 4" will be the fab 3 and well... that just didn't sit well with me.


So in realizing that this Spring Break will look quite different than all the rest, I am allowing myself to have some mini melt downs about the process of letting go!

I realize that even after Emma graduates this June I will still be her mom and she will still be my Em-Dilema, but our relationship will change.

I want to let her go!

I know I need to let her go!

I know it's not healthy to stunt her growth and try and keep her under my wings of protection.
I think I realized that last year sometime when she had her first heart break.
Something a mother tries to protect her baby from all their life happened and we lived thru it. 

We are stronger now for it.

And I'm grateful for her constant pursuit as the oldest child to pave the way toward independence and at the same time come back to a path that was set before her at a very young age.

I do believe, with all my heart that is the true test of a good parent. To not force a child to walk a certain path simply because it is what you know to be the "best path".

Every person, young and old has to set their own course.

There are certainly good compasses we can pass off to our children in hopes that they will see the wisdom of using a compass in the wild and raging sea that is this crazy world, but in the end it is their boat.
They have to learn to sail it however they deem worthy.





Today I am "Embracing" the fact that 
on June 10th our oldest daughter will graduate from high school and head into the uncharted waters of her young independent life.

 I'm grateful for every single moment.

God bless the oldest children or only children in every family!

  We had to learn how to be parents on her.

Sometimes we failed miserably and other times I think we got some things right.  
She has taught us how to stay humble and courageous all at the same time! 
And I know our job as Parenting isn't over come graduation day, but it is a graduation from a sort of parenting.
Our relationship will change and is changing and it's all part of this letting go. 




4 comments:

Jen(M)Simmons said...

Please continue writing....Here's to the hopes that the words flow as strong as the emotions. You inspire me to pick up the pen, to capture it....Love that Emma-dilem. <3 Can hardly believe it's happening...this growing up thing....

Jeni said...

I can't believe Emma will be graduating so soon! You are such a strong and courageous mom to her - I can only hope to be even half the momma you are. Hugs all around!

Dana Skroch said...

You are amazing. She is amazing. My mother heart agrees with, rejoices with, and is inspired by yours. Love you friend.

Anonymous said...

Beautifully written! From one who can relate! I love you my Noel and she does too. She will always need you and the relationship will just get stronger. The bond is there forever.

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